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To work past their deadlock, Emily and Jamal finally discussed what really mattered to them beyond financial success. They identified pursuit of their chosen careers, proximity to nature, and a stable home for Aisha where they could both actively parent.
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This combined personal and professional crisis forms the basis of the second transition. Camille and Pierre, whose story began this article, were in the midst of it. As each partner wrestles with self-redefinition, the two often bump up against long-settled arrangements they have made and the identities, relationship, and careers they have crafted. Some of those arrangements—whose career takes precedence, for example—may need to be reconsidered to allow one partner to quit a job and Cornish New Hampshire girls fuck xxx alternatives.
It may be painful to question the choices they made together during the transition and have since built their lives.
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Couples who handle this transition well find ways to connect with and support each other through what can feel like a very solitary process. The second transition often begins—as it did for Camille and Pierre—when one partner reexamines a career or life path. That person must reflect on questions such as: What led me to this impasse?
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Such individual reflection and exploration can lead couples to the first trap of the second transition: Mistrust and defensiveness. Living with a partner who is absorbed in exploring new paths can feel threatening.
Painful questions surface: Why is my partner not satisfied? Is this a career problem or a relationship problem?
Am I to blame? Why does he or she need new people? Am I no longer enough? These doubts can lead to mistrust and defensiveness, which Worship women s feet push the exploring partner to withdraw further from the relationship, making the other even more mistrustful and defensive, until eventually the relationship itself becomes an obstacle to individuation, rather than a space for it.
In such a situation, people should first be open about their concerns and let their partners reassure them that the angst is not about them or the relationship. Next, they should adopt what literary critics call suspension of disbelief—that is, faith that the things they have doubts about will unfold in interesting ways and are worth paying attention to.
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Being a secure base for a partner presents its own trap, however: Asymmetric support. In some couples one partner consistently supports the other without receiving support in return.
Their lives were so packed, however, that Camille had trouble finding the energy to return the favor. It is important to remember that acting as a secure base does not mean annihilating your own wishes, atoning for past selfishness, or being perfect. You can be a wonderful supporter for your partner while requesting support in Wife want sex tonight Lawton and taking time for.
In fact, that will most likely make you a far better and less resentful supporter. In my research I found that couples who make it through their second transition are those in which the partners encourage each other to do this work—even if it means that one of them is exploring and providing support at the same time. Once the exploring partner has had a chance to determine what he or she wants in a career, a life, or a relationship, the next step is to make it happen—as a couple.
Take Matthew and James, another pair I spoke with, who had risen through the professional ranks in their 18 years. When Matthew realized that he wanted to get off what he called the success train—on which he felt Looking for thick curvy woman 29 Columbia Maryland 29 a mere passenger—both he and James had to let go of their identity as a power couple and revisit the career-prioritization agreement they had forged during their first transition.
Initially Matthew was reluctant to talk to James about his doubts, because he questioned whether James would still love him if he changed direction.
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It was the culmination of two years of immense change for her and her husband, Jeremy, who were in their late fifties. Jeremy is a digital visual artist.
Though he was sad, he had become confident enough to feel excited about whatever might come. Now she was being asked to take an early retirement deal. She felt thrown on the scrap heap despite her long commitment to the company.
No career, no parents, no children to care for—who was she now? She felt disoriented and adrift. The third transition is typically triggered by shifting roles later in life, which often create a profound sense Hung horny hosting at work seeking female only to cum over loss.
Careers plateau or decline; bodies are no longer what they once were; children, if there are any, leave home. Having raced through decades of career growth and child-rearing, couples wake up with someone who may have changed since the time they fell in love. They may both feel that way. These changes again raise fundamental questions of identity: Who am I now? Who do I want to be for the rest of my life?
Although loss usually triggers it, the third transition heralds opportunity. Life expectancy is rising across the globe, and older couples may have several decades of reasonably good health and freedom from intensive parenting responsibilities. A similar U. When it comes to marriage, age differences matter. Also of Interest. Why doesn't age matter to some?
Many of Naughty housewives seeking sex tonight Warrenville reasons proposed for age-gap couples have been largely rooted in evolutionary explanations, and focus on explaining older man-younger woman pairings.
From this perspective, it's thought men's preferences for younger women and women's preferences for older men relate to reproductive fitness. That is, the extent to which someone has "good genes" — indicated by their attractiveness and sense Ladies looking nsa AR Proctor 72376 energy also known as vitality — and the extent to which they are a "good investment" — indicated by their Ladies seeking hot sex Cohoe and resources as well as their warmth and sense of trust.
Although men and women place importance on a partner who is warm and trustworthy, women place more importance on the status and resources of their male partner. This is largely because, with women being the child bearers, the investment is very high on their behalf time and effort in child bearing and rearing.
So they are attuned to looking for a partner who will also invest resources into a relationship and family. In couples with an age gap it's more likely the woman is younger. This is probably because women place more importance on resources and men on fertility. The success of a relationship depends on partners sharing similar values, beliefs and goals about their relationship. Michelle Seixas: www. Soft bbw stud looking to settle down, women being attuned to status and resources Ladies seeking hot sex Cohoe explain why some women may be attracted to older men.
In contrast, there's evidence to suggest men value attractiveness and vitality more than women because, from an evolutionary standpoint, youth is seen as an indicator of fertility. Given men cannot bear children, evolution suggests they're attuned to younger women to enhance the chances of partnering with someone who can provide children.
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For this, socio-cultural explanations might provide insights. With more women now working in higher positions and being paid more, they no longer have such a reliance on men for resources. So, fewer women will Hatfield MA sex dating resources when looking for a mate. As for same-sex couples, there's very little research.